Stay at home Mum with baby not sleeping
Stay at home mum with Toddler (aged 4 years) and baby (aged 4 months) requiring feeds every two hours night and day. After visiting her GP and speaking to a health visitor this client felt she had post natal depression and wanted to give up breast feeding as she was physically and mentally exhausted.
Everyone at home was being affected and it was putting a strain on her relationship and older child too. After two days, I helped get the baby to sleep through from 7-7am and into a 4 hourly routine in the day and mum choose to carry on breast feeding. Everything at home began to feel calmer again and Mum felt her life was back in control and her children were much happier because of it too.
I continued to support this family over a period of time and joined them in New Zealand too. Months later, Mum was finally diagnosed with post natal depression and given medication. She later disclosed to me that the week before I arrived, she had managed to save herself from a near death experience, despite loving her family dearly and having two gorgeous, well behaved, healthy children.
I am not a medical professional however, I do have a great understanding and time for Mums who are doing their best but are thoroughly exhausted and can’t think straight or focus properly when under stress or feeling depressed and have almost given up. There is always ways forward and the hardest part is often taking that first step to ask for help. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your child’s sake.
A year later, life New Zealand brought them all closer together and they experienced a new life full of beaches, sun and family fun. What could happen if you got more help?
Child’s Bad Behaviour & Tantrums
A working mother with children aged 6 and 3 was concerned about worsening tantrums and difficult child behaviour and experiencing new sleep patterns with her six year old. Mum worked part time, however her daughters’challenging behaviour had suddenly deteriorated, she was increasingly more defiant and had taken to waking in the night causing disturbance to the rest of the household. The situation was a great shock to her parents, both were struggling to overcome her emotionally challenging and draining tantrums.
Working long hours Dad failed to recognize how bad it was, initially he was reluctant to get help.Their younger son Henry was the complete opposite to Sally. He was confident, happy go lucky and really was a perfect child that everyone adored. Having self-doubt and ‘Mum guilt’ Kit questioned whether she should give up her job? Under the surface she worried that there may have been mental health issues with her daughter. She was adamant about anything to be disclosed to the school nurse though and was assured of full confidentiality.
At first Sally seemed a real challenge, even for me and I could see why mum and Dad needed help. However after one session and some new techniques their family life changed for the better. As I left the house Paul spoke privately, he thanked me for what I had show him and how I had calmed the situation down with Sally. After my visit he did acknowledge the exhaustion it was causing and how it was dominating and impacting every area of their family life and thoroughly diminishing their family harmony, particularly at the weekends.
I guided them through my Sleep & Family Transformation programme and with some new techniques and hand holding, they got the calmer life they craved. After our work together the family had addressed the sleep issues, forged a much closer relationship and had a far better understanding of their daughters challenging behaviour. More importantly: they had all the skills and tools to effectively overcome matters if she happens to fly off the handle again or refuses to co-operate at bedtimes.
Mum thankfully kept her job that she enjoyed /em which easily covered my fee), and Dad became more involved and supportive. I’m so proud that they achieved things mostly by themselves and everyone now feels closer and has a greater understanding of each others needs.
How quickly did it take for behaviour changes to happen?
Significant progress was achieved in week one, however the rest of the 3 month programme ensured everything has stayed calm and was fully embedded with the follow on support on hand, life at home family and outings have become fun again for everyone. Mum even found the confidence to take her daughter on family holidays again, this had previously been stressful a experience and consequently restricted family trips, due to Sally’s unpredictable behaviour.
Juliet has a particular skill in getting to the heart of a problem and is gently able to put a parents’ mind at rest, my son aged four had never slept the through the night despite me contacting health professionals. Since contacting Juliet he now settles without me and stays in his own room until morning
/ Children: 4 & 2.
/ Restaurant owner
/ Chipping Camden
My life has changed beyond recognition, I sit here twiddling my thumbs each evening, both boys sleep 7pm-7am.
/ Mum of twins aged 1
I feel so much better my five month old baby slept all night and 3 hours in the day
/ Mum of two boys
I was close to the precipice before I called you we have come a long way in a short space of time.
/ Mum of 12 week old girl
/ T.V producer
Juliet really knows her stuff, our daughter is now sleeping all night and day naps are longer too.
/ Children: 11 Baby girl 11 months
If you’re hesitating don’t, she really is the Sanity Nanny!
/ Mum of baby of 4 months & boy 4 years
Worth every penny, our family life’s changed beyond my wildest dreams.
/ 3 boys
We were really impressed with your knowledge, we’ve seen great improvements with both children since your visit, thank you.
/ Dad of baby girl 7 months, boy 3 years