FAQ

Who do you work with?

I generally work with busy, professional parents and entrepreneurs in their 30’s and 40’s who want to help their child grow up and excel. This includes full and part-time parents and those who have gone through baby or child loss, IVF or adoption and may have different challenges to face. Most clients come to me via, recommendation, group talks or the website.

What methods do you use?

I use intuition and a variety of tools and gentle techniques drawn from my many years’ childcare (25 years) and personal development training (9 years). I also hold Montessori Teaching certificate and have been trained in Post Natal Depression and paediatric First Aid.

How long does it take to see results?

My aim is always the same, to give my clients optimum results in a way that suits their lifestyle or work commitments, in the shortest possible time. Depending on the situation and level of service you opt for, you can see results in as little as 24-48 hours. All programmes come with a guaranteed outcome.

How long have you been doing this work?

I have over 25 years experience with new borns right up to teens and enjoy children of all ages in a variety of settings and countries. I take a holistic approach and have been involved in the Personal Development field for the last 9 years.

Do you use controlled crying?

I do not advocate controlled crying this can deepen the situation and leave a life long impact on your child’s emotional and psychological development. The only time I would recommend it, is if a parent uses it is in desperation for fear that they may physically harm their child.

Baby & Child Sleep Questions

1) My new baby will only fall asleep on the boob, in the car or when rocked to sleep. My son or daughter won’t sleep in a crib, cot or pram how can I change this?

This is a common problem for parents and can last some time if not dealt with early on you will need to focus on settling techniques and make gradual and consistent changes, many parents see positive results within a day or so.

2) My new baby/twins are awake crying for hours on end at night or during the day, how can I stop this I’m finding it difficult to enjoy them some days?

Crying is your baby’s way of communicating, there are many reasons why a baby cries other than wanting food or to be changed, most often they want comfort and cuddles. Your baby may simply have wind or could be in pain, if you do suspect the later, do see your GP or Health Visitor.

3) I’m concerned my child is not getting enough sleep, we’ve tried many things but nothings worked, how can you settle a baby or toddler without resorting to controlled crying?

Controlled crying is not a method I recommend particularly for a young baby or a child of any age, it can affect their brain and emotional development. Try soothing your child and gently reassuring, then stay close until he/she falls asleep.

4) How can I get my /toddler older child to sleep by themselves and/or stay in their own room?

This is a common issue for parents with toddlers and often not to do with sleep, it is more to do with boundaries and building your child’s confidence. Try using a reward chart if your child is old enough to understand.

5) How can I overcome early mornings wake ups and 5am wakings with my baby/child *Over 4-6 months?

This can be achieved by having a good day time routine and trying to re-settle your child until you get closer to the wake up time you choose.

6) We try to set good sleep habits but in the middle of the night however my child usually screams unless we take him/her into our bed, we know it’s wrong but don’t want our other child woken up, how can we change things?

A lot of parents fall into this trap and then end up getting no sleep themselves being kicked by their restless child or worry that their youngster may fall out of bed! Try to resettle your child in their own room and avoid picking up unless teething/ill.

7) How can you create a good nap routine for a baby or toddler? We attend some groups some mornings but naps are not lasting long and it can take me 40-60 minutes to settle my child for a short nap which may only lasts 20-30 minutes.

This is tricky and naps are still important as they can affect night sleep if your baby or toddler is not getting at least 1-2 good long naps (1-2 hours) in the day, make sure your child doesn’t cat nap in the car and plan outings around normal ‘nap times’.

8) My child cries so much when we put him in the cot and won’t lie down, sometimes he/she will make himself sick, I’m really worried what can I do?

This can be distressing and upsetting for a parent, the best way to handle this situation is to keep your child calm before putting into the cot, read a story etc. and reassure your toddler. You may want to rub their back until your child begins to relax and settle down.

9) How much sleep does my baby or child need?

It varies, however most babies and toddlers will sleep longer if they have a good routine from and early age newborns sleep from 10-20 hours and this drops to 14-15 hours by six months and at 1-2 around 13-14 hours. A 4-6 year old require 11-12 hours, it does vary however but don’t be fooled into thinking your child doesn’t need much sleep if they go to bed late or are up at 5.30 each day, almost every situation ca nbe improved unless.

10) I am worried my child is having nightmares or has a sleep disorder, I can’t seem to calm my toddler down and he/she seems very distressed, what should I do?

There is usually a reason for this and it could be any number of things, even a small seemingly insignificant event that has triggered the night wakings. Gently talk to your child and give plenty of reassurance at bedtime. Best not leave things, if there’s no change after a month it is unlikely to stop by itself or a long period of time.

11) My child wakes up in the night sweating and cries out, can you help?

This can happen because your toddler has seen something scary on TV or in a book, remove any offending items and don’t try to talk, just calm your child and give comfort and cuddles, things should soon settle down.

12) My baby doesn’t sleep much in the day he is very clingy and I can’t put him down, I’m worried about how little time I spend with my toddler, can you help?

It’s common for babies around 7-9 months to go through a period of separation anxiety, however it is sometimes difficult for a toddler to understand why you can’t play as much. The best thing is to find a quiet activity where you can all sit down together or read books and try to have some one to one time, so he/she doesn’t feel left out.

If things continue, it’s best to get some help to support your child as there may be another reason.

Food and Feeding Questions

1) My new baby started off feeding well but is now only taking short feeds every 1-2 hours and is difficult to settle, how can I get her to take longer feeds?

Infant babies need regular feeds and it is normal to feed frequently in the first month or two as your baby only has a small stomach. It takes time if breast feeding to build up the milk supply, after this, things should settle down and by month two or three and things will start to become easier and feeds will gradually space out.

2) My child refuses to eat hardly any fruit and vegetables I’m worried she isn’t getting the right nutrients and it can affect her moods in the day, how can I get her to eat better?

Toddlers can go through phases like this and it shouldn’t last too long. If you keep offering a variety of colours and different vegetables she may eat them if you make them look attractive/create funny faces etc. particularly if you don’t make too much fuss about it. Hiding them in other dishes is OK but not the best option, since you don’t want your child to mistrust you.

3) How can I get my child to eat their five a day and does a smoothie count?

Smoothies can have high sugar content and should be offered in moderation, best to make food fun and keep offering fresh fruit and vegetables which have different tastes and textures and more fibre.

There is always a solution to a parenting or sleep problem and it’s often easier to resolve than you may currently believe, if left it may hold your child back or affect parent child relationships. Most parents wish they had done things sooner as before long the Mums that are up 3-4 times a night declare, ‘I could never use a sleep consultant with my child’ are the same ones who will be soon asking, is your baby or child still sleeping through the night and then become curious and ask you, how do you achieve it?

That’s the point where you need to refer them to the Sanity Nanny, unless of course you want to continue having broken sleep or wasting 1-4 hours a day trying to help your child nap or go off to sleep, eat better at mealtimes or stop tantrums which is all very exhausting yet easy to overcome when you have the right guidance and understanding of babies, toddlers and young children.

Enjoy your parenting journey and savour every moment because before you know it, they’ll be flying off to nursery, ‘big school’ or University!

What is the next step?

If we’ve not met before, please feel free to get in touch. You will be sent an enquiry form requesting some brief information about your child and/or family situation. Once this is received back I will arrange a complimentary call (with no further obligation) lasting 20 minutes to clarify what it is you want help with.

After the call, if you think I’m the right person to work with we can arrange a fast fix ‘trouble busting’ call 40-60 minutes long or arrange a home visit.